“I read an online article and it said things are bad!”
Yes, we know – we read the same article. The original one and the spinoff articles. And we have people pointing them out to us every time we post about our online parties….
The honest thing is to start with is the truth. Realistically, we cannot give anyone a full guarantee that no one will record the party or take screenshots. Much of this is about taking a Leap of Faith.
This post is about how we work and what we do to keep you safe, which may help you take that leap of faith.
The discretion, privacy and comfort of our guests is of the utmost importance to us at our parties, both offline and online. And we put a lot of work and effort to ensure the safety and privacy of guests at our online sex parties.
We use a few different tools when creating our unique spaces. The first one is The PAL System. Everyone attending the party must attend with a PAL. That mean everyone at the party is accountable to at least one other person there, if not more. Our experience over the years is that The PAL System helps enormously in creating a far more trusting and comfortable play space.
We require everyone to have their cameras on at all times (we allow cameras to be turned off during the short DJ set between the closing of the cabaret and the opening of the playroom), and to be present on screen for the duration of the party. This helps create an atmosphere of respect and togetherness between guests. We are all seen, we are all vulnerable, we are all sharing the same experience throughout.
We use Zoom. And yes, we did read that article which came out back in March. Zoom was indeed more open to abuse back when the whole world turned to it as the new tool of communication during these Covid Times. There were breaches of security here and there, and the short-lived phenomenon of Zoombombing.
Those incidents were very few, and tended to be a result of people not trained in how to use the deep settings or the software to tighten security for their online events. Our team knows the software well and is trained in using it for events like ours. Further to that, following the mass expansion of their user base, Zoom have worked very hard to update and tighten all of their security setting, and it is now far safer to use in the context of private events such as ours.
It’s worth noting that the articles people invoke don’t contain any actual examples of events going wrong or being shut down. They all mention possibilities. To date, we have yet to hear of any actual examples of sexuality events being shut down. It is, in fact, still the forum of choice for most (not all) online sensuality and sexuality events around the world.
And then there is our team. We have an exceptional team of people working hard to ensure the safety of our guests in real time, as the party is happening. Our team is very experienced at hosting intimate sexuality events, both offline and online. They know the community of people, the etiquette, what to look out for, how to help, and how to make sure everyone has a positive experience at the parties.
In terms of process, we release the link to the party one hour before we begin, by email, only to ticket holders. We match names of guests to their names on tickets as they arrive at the waiting room of the party. The few occasions when people refused to give us their names and to reply to our messages when trying to join the party, they have not been admitted. The same for people attempting to join without their PAL. Accountability is very important to us.
The party opens with us going over the House Rules with everyone. We do our best to ensure that everyone understands how the evening works, what they can and cannot do, and how we can create a very special night together. The party is then supervised throughout by our hosts. Our hosts are there for guests who can send private messages if they have any concerns or require assistance in any way.
This is our process, and those are the ways we work behind the scenes to ensure the safety and privacy of our guests, and to create a space comfortable enough for participants to relax, to let go, and to be able to fully express themselves. We are continuously monitoring feedback, monitoring our options, and working hard to continue creating positive experiences for our guests.
Come and try 😉
“I felt safe and really appreciated the part at the beginning of the night where the rules were laid out and everyone promised to stick to them. The hosts were lovely and accommodating”