We like to say our parties are for All The Lovely Creatures, but what does that mean? Who actually attends online sex parties?
Much like our Offline Parties, the people attending our online sex parties are from all walks and backgrounds of life. What our guests all have in common are curiosity about shared sexual interactions and possibilities, and a desire for sensual exploration in gentle and safe surroundings with other playful folk. We welcome people of all sexual and gender identities and preferences, of all shapes, sizes, and flavours, and all ages (over 18).
Our online parties have been an opportunity for partners living and isolating apart to have a hot, alternative date night. Partners isolating together have also loved our parties, allowing to explore together.
Single people(*) find our parties so much more liberating and relaxed and fun than online dating! They get to meet other playful beings (singles as well as couples and thruples), and they get to chat, flirt and make new and exciting connections.
So far this represent what we usually see at our Offline Parties. What has been most interesting for us to observe is how moving our events online has opened up possibilities to invite many more people to share this special world of ours: Those with mobility difficulties who are not usually able to attend offline events but who still want to share and explore their sexuality, introverts who find it difficult to express and explore in the environment of an in-person event, people living in remote areas, for whom travelling to an actual offline party is not a viable option.
We also have guests whose cultural and social surroundings and daily reality mean they could never even consider attending an offline event. But once they close their doors, in the privacy of their bedrooms, they join us to explore their fantasies and interact with people in full safety and privacy.
And the thing which has been putting the biggest smile on our faces over the past few months has been seeing people from many cities and countries make new friends across the world. People who could never meet each other at a party hosted in an actual geographical location are now binding and connecting. This truly feels like spreading the love as far and wide as we can, and we can think of nothing better to do with our time ?
“Thank you so much for making us feel very welcome at our first party. We were extremely nervous at the beginning but felt part of the team by end of the night.”
(*) Please note that single people still need to attend with a PAL. You can read about The PAL System here: http://thelivingroomparties.com/online-parties/
“I read an online article and it said things are bad!”
Yes, we know – we read the same article. The original one and the spinoff articles. And we have people pointing them out to us every time we post about our online parties….
The honest thing is to start with is the truth. Realistically, we cannot give anyone a full guarantee that no one will record the party or take screenshots. Much of this is about taking a Leap of Faith.
This post is about how we work and what we do to keep you safe, which may help you take that leap of faith.
The discretion, privacy and comfort of our guests is of the utmost importance to us at our parties, both offline and online. And we put a lot of work and effort to ensure the safety and privacy of guests at our online sex parties.
We use a few different tools when creating our unique spaces. The first one is The PAL System. Everyone attending the party must attend with a PAL. That mean everyone at the party is accountable to at least one other person there, if not more. Our experience over the years is that The PAL System helps enormously in creating a far more trusting and comfortable play space.
We require everyone to have their cameras on at all times (we allow cameras to be turned off during the short DJ set between the closing of the cabaret and the opening of the playroom), and to be present on screen for the duration of the party. This helps create an atmosphere of respect and togetherness between guests. We are all seen, we are all vulnerable, we are all sharing the same experience throughout.
We use Zoom. And yes, we did read that article which came out back in March. Zoom was indeed more open to abuse back when the whole world turned to it as the new tool of communication during these Covid Times. There were breaches of security here and there, and the short-lived phenomenon of Zoombombing.
Those incidents were very few, and tended to be a result of people not trained in how to use the deep settings or the software to tighten security for their online events. Our team knows the software well and is trained in using it for events like ours. Further to that, following the mass expansion of their user base, Zoom have worked very hard to update and tighten all of their security setting, and it is now far safer to use in the context of private events such as ours.
It’s worth noting that the articles people invoke don’t contain any actual examples of events going wrong or being shut down. They all mention possibilities. To date, we have yet to hear of any actual examples of sexuality events being shut down. It is, in fact, still the forum of choice for most (not all) online sensuality and sexuality events around the world.
And then there is our team. We have an exceptional team of people working hard to ensure the safety of our guests in real time, as the party is happening. Our team is very experienced at hosting intimate sexuality events, both offline and online. They know the community of people, the etiquette, what to look out for, how to help, and how to make sure everyone has a positive experience at the parties.
In terms of process, we release the link to the party one hour before we begin, by email, only to ticket holders. We match names of guests to their names on tickets as they arrive at the waiting room of the party. The few occasions when people refused to give us their names and to reply to our messages when trying to join the party, they have not been admitted. The same for people attempting to join without their PAL. Accountability is very important to us.
The party opens with us going over the House Rules with everyone. We do our best to ensure that everyone understands how the evening works, what they can and cannot do, and how we can create a very special night together. The party is then supervised throughout by our hosts. Our hosts are there for guests who can send private messages if they have any concerns or require assistance in any way.
This is our process, and those are the ways we work behind the scenes to ensure the safety and privacy of our guests, and to create a space comfortable enough for participants to relax, to let go, and to be able to fully express themselves. We are continuously monitoring feedback, monitoring our options, and working hard to continue creating positive experiences for our guests.
Come and try 😉
“I felt safe and really appreciated the part at the beginning of the night where the rules were laid out and everyone promised to stick to them. The hosts were lovely and accommodating”
Do they work?
That was the biggest question we had at the beginning – would this work?
The truth is we were scared.
Over these past few years we’ve hosted playrooms and sensual spaces all over the world, in many different environments. Warehouses in London, secret underground garages in Zurich, ancient Roman baths in Lyon, an orgy for 40 people inside a massive metal dome under a full moon in the middle of the Spanish desert, Airbnb flats in Romania, as well as the quiet hidden suburbs of Tokyo.
And there are always nerves just before. But never quite as much as before hosting our first online sex party. What will it be like? How will people respond? What will the vibe be?
And what we witnessed was just beautiful….. people giving themselves permission to see and be seen, to explore themselves, to connect with new people, to smile. People celebrated their Inner Cam Performer. We became a space where everyone is an exhibitionist, and everyone is a voyeur, and all in the most respectful, joyous and playful way. We saw a shared beautiful liberating experience, and so many delighted and delicious smiles.
Then we knew, yeah, it works ?
What stood out the most was the similarity to our offline parties. The same rhythms of time, the sense of guests slowly unfolding as they begin to trust the space enough to let go of their inhibitions, and being expressing their sensual and sexual selves. The lovely playfulness between guests, flirting with each other and connecting. It’s exhilarating to see.
“That was a really hot experience, with lots of joy, enthusiasm, and a really supportive atmosphere!”
“I had a great time, I thought it was very liberating”
“Beautiful experience. Thank you!”
That’s probably the question we get asked the most
The questions are totally understandable – what actually happens? It is all a bunch of voyeurs? It is full of people masturbating? It is sleazy? Do I have to be naked? Do I have to play with myself?
The truth is that there is no one structure or set of instructions for online sex parties. Just like with Offline Sex Parties, the variety and diversity of online sex parties is wide and they come in many different shapes, sizes and flavours.
So we can’t tell you what happens at ‘an’ online sex party, but we can definitely tell you what happens at our ones ?
The evening is split into two distinct parts – the social/Cabaret part of the evening, and then the Playroom.
As participants arrive we have our (super cool and awesome) House DJ welcoming guests with sensual beats whilst we admit everyone and folks settle down. We open with an introduction to the party. Here we set out the House Rules and explain how the evening will proceed. After the introduction we play a few fun ice breaker games where guests can meet each other in breakout rooms and connect prior to the second part of the evening. This is where we introduce guests to our Flirtiquette – our guide to online flirting during the party. Then we move to the Cabaret part, which we love. We’re really fortunate to have very sexy and talented performers working with us, and our cabarets are a complete delight of live music and burlesque.
Following the cabaret we have a short break with music from our DJ, as guests prepare for the Playroom part of the evening.
Our playroom is a gently guided and supervised space. We softly lead participants to ease themselves into their bodies and begin exploring their sensual and sexual needs and desires.
This is an entirely optional space. There is nothing you need to ‘do’. There are no expectations of you, no requirements whatsoever. Everyone is welcome to explore the experience in whichever way they want, at whichever pace works best for them. The invitation from us is for guests to play with Seeing and Being Seen, to explore their Inner Voyeur as well as their Inner Exhibitionist. To touch with their eyes, celebrate their bodies, their own sensations, and the beauty of a shared experience. Guest flirt with each other over on private messages as well as our Party KiK Group which all ticket holders have access to. So the night is very interactive between participants.
“Yes, but do people have sex? Can *we* have sex? Can we masturbate? Can we tie each other up? What’s allowed?!?”
Oopsie – turns out we were being a bit too subtle 🙂
Yes, you can! Once we open the playroom, guests who want to are very welcome to have solo sex, partnered sex, show off their toys, their skills, their desires, their full, glorious, beautiful selves.
It is a uniquely sensual and intimate experience for many people. We love the smiles we see, the flirting, the pleasure and satisfaction of guests, and the fact that many come back for more of our parties.
Come and see…
“Last night was ??? Thank you!”